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Since turning 20, I’ve always had weirdness around my birthday. I don’t like getting older so I see my birthday as a reminder that it’s out of my hands and there’s nothing I can do about it…the number keeps going up. You know what though? I was looking at a photo of myself from a few years ago and I look better now than I did then! Why spoil my birthday with yucky thoughts about getting older? So let’s be positive about aging. There’s nothing we can do about it anyway so let’s be happy.
Getting older has its advantages too, you know. Here are some good things about getting older:
- This rule is not hard-and-fast but usually you gain wisdom with age…although I know some pretty dumb older people…so that’s why I say it’s not for sure…usually. If you aren’t getting wiser with age, maybe you need to read more or take some ginkgo biloba (does that stuff really work?). Get that brain working – a non-working brain cannot gain wisdom.
- Eating cake. Every birthday you get a piece of cake…now, the older you get, the less acceptable it is to eat a giant piece of cake. Plus, with all that dieting and exercise you have to do because you’re getting older, you get a much deserved piece of cake…ahem…or two. Now, this doesn’t have anything to do with old age. Even the toddler gets to smash a piece of cake into his face on his special day so enjoy it until the day your teeth fall out…and then eat the icing.
- People usually become forgetful as they get older. This has to be the best one I would think. Let’s say you’re not forgetful yet…but people your age usually are…lean on that. It will get you out of a lot of trouble (wink, wink).
- Reading glasses. I just visited the eye doctor last week and she told me that once I turn 40, I will need glasses to read close up. This doesn’t excite me at all…but for all of you dumb folks out there without any wisdom…this COULD give you the appearance of intelligence. So that’s good.
- Your own personal holiday. Don’t fall under the assumption that just because 20,000,000 other people were born on the same day as you that this day doesn’t belong to you. And if you work in an office where you share a birthday, duke it out ahead of time. We all need our special holiday. Don’t share. It’s the only day you can be selfish and no one can say anything.
That’s it. The world as I see it. Be happy everybody…and a little selfish too
“Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain.”
~Robert Gary Lee
It’s crazy how life can change so much in what feels like the blink of an eye. Life is never perfect but when things are going great, it can feel that way at times…but things can quickly change and make your world stop turning. You look around at everyone else still going about their lives and you wonder how they can keep going when your world has stopped spinning.
But what does it all mean? Why are we “allowed” to go through these hard times that seem to break us into a million pieces? Some of us never recover from these difficulties…why? Why would a loving God allow this? Be honest. You have asked yourself this question. Even the person with the strongest faith has asked this question at some time in their life…and if you haven’t, you will. Is it a bad thing to question? No. Questioning is a very good thing. It allows you to work through everything. Soul searching is good. It puts strength behind your faith and your beliefs. Don’t push it away or deny its existence. Question. But also realize that some questions don’t have answers…or maybe the answers are something you will never know. Are you willing to accept that?
One year ago today at 12:24am, my mom passed away unexpectedly. I found myself asking why? I still do. I don’t understand why such a good person was allowed to die in such an awful way when there are horrible people who live to be 100. WHY? I don’t have answers. I suppose I never will until I see God face-to-face and then all will be revealed. But I trust Him. He loved my mama. And although she had pains that lasted for a short while, she is now in paradise with the One she read about and loved all her life…a promise fulfilled. The circumstances surrounding it I don’t understand. But I know that she will never suffer again. She will never cry again, never want for anything, never feel the pain of a broken heart again, never feel any pain in her body again, never be hurt by another person. Ever. I love my sweet mama and although I miss her, there is nothing better I could wish for her. The most unselfish part of me is truly happy for her now. She has a new body and she is with the One the Bible describes simply as “Love” (1 John 4:8).
Then why these tears? Why am I still sad? Why was I left behind to feel the pain that she doesn’t experience? Truthfully, I don’t know. And honestly, I have asked many times between that awful day and today for God to take me too. But God still has purpose for me. What doesn’t kill me only makes me stronger. God loves me and has a plan that only He knows and only I can play out. Keep asking why though and don’t see it as a bad thing. Let it strengthen you as you work through it all. Life is a process. Just decide that no matter what happens, you will never allow it to permanently bring you down. Learn from it all, the positive and the negative. And whether you believe in God or not, choose to be love in a world full of hate.
Who am I?
I am brave.
I am a free spirit.
I am beautifully imperfect.
I am loving.
I am wonderfully weird.
I am a daydreamer.
I am real…what you see is what you get.
I am my mother’s daughter.
- Jane Emily
Yesterday I was in a store and I walked past a mirror and had to do a double take. I look so much like my mom that I thought I was seeing her for a moment. Looking back, I realize I WAS seeing her. Her beautiful face looks out through my own. We share so many of the same features. What a gift that was given to me. Now, when I am missing her, all I have to do is look in the mirror because there she is, looking right back at me. She left her mark on my life in so many ways. She taught me what it means to love with abandon. Love without expecting anything in return. What a beautiful legacy. I AM MY MOTHER’S DAUGHTER.
Merry Christmas, everyone! I hope you have a blessed holiday and a happy new year! Don’t let your circumstances define your happiness. Happiness lives within you.
This is definitely mean but I also couldn’t stop laughing. Everyone needs a good laugh now and then…I don’t usually like to laugh at someone else’s expense but this is too damn funny not to share.
By the way – apparently this prank scared some of these people so badly that they are suing.
I’m sitting in Starbucks now, watching a man outside in a wheelchair. He is paralyzed from the neck down. His wheelchair is motorized and he controls it by blowing into a breathing tube. He has a computer in front of him and he is typing by holding a long stick (for lack of a better word) in his mouth and typing on his keyboard. His mother (or caregiver) is there, taking care of him. Every once in a while, she gets up and helps him to take a sip of his drink. Such love. Such dedication. She is reading a book but also looks around at the people staring at her son. I see that she’s okay with people looking but if someone looked upon him with anything negative, I can tell that she is the kind of woman who would have something to say to that person…and rightly so.
I wonder how he got that way? So sad but he has adapted. His mother has also adapted. When she had a son, did she imagine it to be this way? Most parents imagine taking care of their children until they are old enough to take care of themselves. But this man will never be able to take care of himself. He will always need her there. I wonder if that makes her angry in a way or if she loves to take care of him. She is stern. I usually would interpret that as someone who is unhappy but maybe she is just strong-willed and it is showing up on her face. She has been through a lot. One thing is true: She LOVES her son.
I looked at his face as I walked by. I can tell he is a handsome man. I’m sure he probably wanted to be married one day, to love someone, to start a family. But now his reality is sitting in that chair. But what else? Does his chair define him? He didn’t look sad. He didn’t look distraught or unhappy in any way. He looked content. There is something to be learned from these two…
First of all, stop complaining. No matter how bad you think you have it, someone somewhere has it worse than you. Maybe I have it better than this man typing on a keyboard with a stick but at the same time, he can also look out and see that he has it better off than someone else. It’s perspective. Maybe I think I am better off than him because I have full use of my body. But what type of peace and love does he feel in his own life? What I see as negative, maybe he doesn’t see that way. Maybe he could look at me and believe he is better off than me?
Second, your life isn’t always going to turn out the way you thought it would. Does that mean that life is over? Over because your perfect life plan didn’t turn out the way you thought it would? No. You adapt. Sometimes your life is headed the way you direct it and others, it may be pushed a certain way by God, fate or circumstances beyond your control. But what do you do when things are beyond your control or you are pushed? Adapt. We, as human beings have a great ability to adapt…and not only adapt, but SHINE. So, your life isn’t what you thought it would be…get on with it. There is reason and purpose for everything. You aren’t dead yet so keep fighting. Don’t give up.
Don’t define yourself by anything negative, ever. It won’t help you. It will only hurt you in the long run. For years, I have called myself a sinner. But recently, I am opening my mind a little more and seeing things in a new light. I am NOT a sinner. I sin but sinning does NOT define me. Therefore, I am a good person, a person full of good and positive. Yes, I sin, lie, cheat, speak hateful words at times, make bad decisions, etc. But is that who I am or are those things just byproducts of weak moments in my life? Am I a liar? No. Do I lie? Yes. What defines me? Compassion, empathy, trust, honesty, faith, loyalty, LOVE.
Watching this young man and his mother today, I can’t help but wonder how each of them would define themselves. I wonder if they both have peace with the way their life is or if it is a constant battle. I pray for them now that they will see the beauty of what they have and that peace will find them if they have not found it yet.
What defines you? It’s something to think about.
Related article: http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/73
I was just thinking about a few of the things I do to help me continue with self-control in this dieting that is my life. If you’re in your early 20s or younger, this post may not be for you because you can probably still eat whatever you want. However, save this link for when you turn 28 – you’ll need it later.
Okay, so the scenario is you have just finished eating dinner. What do I do when I have just finished eating my healthy dinner and I want to start snacking? BRUSH MY TEETH. No joke. This requires a little bit of self-control so muster up everything you have and push yourself into that bathroom, get out that toothbrush and brush those pearly whites. It’s like a switch gets flipped inside me every time. EVERY TIME. Seriously, I get that minty taste in my mouth and get the taste of food out and I’m satisfied. If you are not in a place where you can brush your teeth, get a piece of MINT gum. If that still isn’t enough, I suggest some hot tea. My favorites are Pineapple Camomile, Vanilla Caramel and Coconut. The warm inside of your tummy also helps to trick your body into feeling satisfied.
Most importantly, drink lots of water. I drink a minimum of 12 eight ounce glasses of water per day. I always gulp down 2 full glasses right before dinner – another way of making your stomach tell your brain you are full. Remember that it takes about 20 minutes for your brain to send a message to your stomach that you are full and usually by then it’s too late if you are over eating. DRINK WATER!
Another good rule of thumb is to make sure not to eat too late at night. I have been guilty of this lately and it really slows you down in so many ways. It takes me longer to fall asleep and slows down my weight loss. The reason it makes it impossible to sleep is because it takes energy for your body to digest food. So, you eat a late dinner, get ready for bed and try to sleep…why can’t you sleep? Your body is actually in a “workout” state trying to digest that meal you just ingested. I recommend eating dinner no later than 7pm (6pm or earlier is ideal).
Side note: I’m really not trying to lose that much more but I’m pretty sure there’s not a girl out there who wouldn’t mind shedding a few inches.
After a while of practicing self-control, your stomach will shrink and you will lose your cravings. Truly, you will – I promise. I have not deviated from my diet plan in 7 weeks now. NOT ONCE. I’m completely satisfied and my stomach has shrunk so much that an apple makes me feel full!
Well that’s all for now! Just a few tidbits to those of you who need a little advice.
The best advice I can give you is this:
If you mess up, don’t beat yourself up. You need the positive reinforcement of your mind so don’t be overly hard on yourself. Realize that you are human and tomorrow is a new day. You can do this. I promise. If you would like advice on how to lose or just need someone to help keep you accountable, email me (email@example.com) or comment here. I’ve done this twice now (thyroid issues). I feel your pain. BUT I am here to tell you it is possible. Just believe in yourself and look at all the others out there who have already achieved their weight loss goals. Let them be your mentors.